Courtney wore a similar J. Crew skirt // a Forever 21 top kind of like this // these J. Crew shoes // this Kate Spade necklace // a similar Kate Spade watch // a similar bracelet.
Ryan wore similar Zara pants // a crisp white shirt like this one // a similar J. Crew sportcoat // a similar Ben Sherman bow tie // these Cole Haan shoes.
We both drank champagne (duh, it was NYE).
On New Year’s Eve we wore kind-of-coordinating neon and went to bed at 9:30pm. Oh and I wore a champagne cork necklace that Ryan got me for Christmas! And so ends the fashion portion of this post.
And now, some seriousness. In the spirit of New Year’s resolutions (which I don’t usually make), I’d been thinking a lot about why I write this blog. I was feeling guilty for not making more time for it, not posting often enough or having the newest things to share or being up to date on what everyone else in the fashion blogging community is saying. And at the same time I was feeling guilty for wanting to spend more of my time on a wine and fashion blog, when there are so many other worthwhile things to spend time on. With so many opportunities to feel guilty about not doing things, I did some deep thinking (yes, probably over a glass of wine) about what value writing a blog brings to my life, and why I want to make more time for it.
Writing a blog is hard! I have a full-time job, and so does my husband. Ever since the clocks changed and our days started fading to night much earlier, and Ryan started a new job with a commute that takes him out of the house pretty much from 7 til 7, we haven’t been able to take photos of each other’s outfits. We can replay outfits in a weekend photo shoot, but that takes a lot of the spontaneity and authenticity out of it, even though you may not know the difference from the photos. We’re not professional photographers (or even talented amateurs). We don’t have sponsors sending us clothes or wines to promote. This blog most likely will never become famous or make us money. So why do it?
The real value to me is that I’m creating something. This blog is just a way of bringing a routine creative practice to my life. Across the infinite sea of blogs, it doesn’t matter if you’re showcasing your amazing DIY talents or sharing your struggles with a personal issue or perfecting the art of wine-and-outfit pairing, it’s that you’re doing things in your personal life just for yourself, and then sitting down and sharing it with the world. Sometimes it’s from scratch, and sometimes it’s taking an idea that’s already out there and putting your own story around it, but it’s still creating.
There are so many blogs out there that it’s easy to get caught up in someone else’s ideas. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing–being inspired by my favorite bloggers is what gave me the courage and excitement to start my own, and it’s still one of my favorite ways to take breaks throughout the day, skipping over to see what kind of jokes Kendi has snuck in with her outfit or what the current state of adventures is in Laura’s life. But it can be too easy to get sucked in, trying to consume every fashion blog out there, feeling like I always need another accessory or pair of shoes or dress or that I should spend more time on my hair and makeup, when that’s not really why I decided to write a blog in the first place. I decided to write a blog simply because I enjoy fashion, and I enjoy wine, and I enjoy the silliness of trying to pair wines with outfits, because there is so much seriousness around pairing wines with other things, that why not find a link between grapes and glamour?
This blog isn’t meant to state that wine and fashion are the two things I care about most. Rather, they are two of many things that I enjoy, and even better, they’re two things that my husband and I both enjoy, so we get to spend time (and probably too much money) on them together. It’s not about having all the stuff. It’s not about having perfect hair or skin or makeup, or having a professional photographer catching my every move. It’s not about generating income (although those that can swing that are super lucky).
It’s just about me creating something around the things I enjoy, with the person I love most. I’m not a wine pro–I just drink a lot of wine. I’m not a total fashionista–I just take advantage of J. Crew sales, maybe a little too often. And I’m not a writer, though I’m not bad at it either, and in order to be better at it I have to practice, and this blog can let me do that, regardless of how many followers I may or may not gain, or how regular my posts may or may not be. Because taking pictures of my husband in cute outfits and picking a wine to drink together while looking stylish makes me happy, and I want to share that
So Happy New Year! My resolution is to not be ashamed of my blog because it’s not like anyone else’s, but just to have fun with it when I can, and not feel bad when I can’t get around to it.